Y’ALL! I’M A WIFE! Not just any wife. I am a Godly wife. I am a holy wife. You guys do not know my story yet, but one day you will! It’s just still being written😉. 

My husband and I decided to wait until marriage to have sex, as God commands us to. We did not know that this level of commitment would immediately make us a major target for the devil. We truly became arrows for the kingdom of God together. In all of my relationships, communication has been an issue. However, it wasn’t until sex was held to its true honor, that I was able to clearly hear my partner and improve in my own shortcomings. Y’all sex outside of marriage is toxic. Your shorty is not toxic and not the problem. And contrary to popular belief-men, you aren’t either. It’s the unholy sex. Repent and watch God change your life. Or you can keep watching Him change mine 😂😂❤️❤️

Oh yeah and how about those chiefs!! We got married at 10am, and finished around 1pm, only missed half of the first quarter!! Woohoo and the biggest thanks to God!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Let’s Talk About Trust

Hey besties! Let’s be real – trust is scary. I don’t even want to touch the subject of trusting others – can you honestly say that you trust yourself? Let’s look at the true definition:


firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something

So again I ask, can you honestly say that you have a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength in/of yourself? To break that down even more: do you, bestie, have a solid and almost unyielding acceptance that you can perform well in or on every occasion, or have a solid and almost unyielding acceptance that you can be truthful in or on every occasion, or have a solid and almost unyielding acceptance that you can live your life proficiently or skillfully in or on every occasion, or have a solid and almost unyielding acceptance that you can withstand great forces or pressures in or on every occasion? If you answered yes to any of those questions then I need to add a CAPTCHA test on The Hadaya’s front page to keep the robots out, OR Jesus Christ has come back again and He’s reading the blog – leave a comment if that’s You, Lord!

We are all human and we all fall short – daily. And since we’re being so honest at this moment, there are some things in the Bible – hi new faith walker, we read the Word here at The Hadaya – that are just unclear or confusing at the first glance … or the first couple of glances. And there are also very clear and specific things in the Bible at first glance that you cannot miss! The first clause of Proverbs 3:5 is one of those very clear and specific things: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart.” We live in a world where there is so much of everything: news outlets, foods, choices, opinions, people, influences, etc. There is so much of everything that it makes it hard to actually know who and what you can trust. And the truth of the matter is, you cannot trust anyone or anything. Let me use our vernacular real fast to make sure you get it: you can’t trust nothing or nobody! We left ‘periodt’ in 2021, but this a period moment: you can’t trust nothing or nobody, periodtt! And when I use the word trust, I am not referring to whatever you know trust to be – I am referring to the true definition – you cannot have a solid and almost unyielding acceptance in anything or anyone to perform well, live life proficiently or skillfully, be truthful, or withstand great forces, in any or every occasion, not even yourself! But you can, bestie, and should, and will eventually I hope and pray, trust in the Lord with all your heart. Only He can do those things, in any and every occasion. And that’s the key part: any and every occasion. No matter the position, condition, situation, and causation, He is the only one able to withstand it all, be truthful in it all, be proficient and skillful in it all, and perform well in it all. The next time you find yourself disappointed or hurt because someone broke your trust, or confused because you don’t know who or what to trust, or even catch yourself relying solely on a person or thing, remember that, and trust in the Lord with all your heart. Xx

The Power of Privacy

Recently, I made the mistake of oversharing. We’ve all been there. You’re talking with a friend, they give their unsolicited advice – with great intentions of course, and suddenly you find yourself overthinking, second-guessing, and overall stressed. Friend, if you’re reading this, yes you inspired this post, and I thank you, lol!

The truth of the matter is, people do not know you. They only know the extent of what you show and tell them. You can give a person every single solitary detail of your life, and they still will not know you. Let me rephrase that… they will not know your heart, your inner child – mankind simply does not have that power.

So when you share things with people who don’t know your heart or your true and original self, and they give you advice, they are ultimately advising you on things they know nothing about. I give my friends advice all the time and they never take it! You know why? Because I’m telling them to do things and it doesn’t make perfect sense, because I don’t have the full story, and I never will. Taking advice from a trusted friend can put you in a very dangerous position. Notice I didn’t say trusted source. God is our source. Sometimes God will outsource and give you the resources that you need. Your friends Sally and Johnny are not that resource – if God chooses to use them as so, He will tell you that!

The second clause of Psalms 139:2 tells us that God “understandest [our thoughts] afar off.” Again, for us new faith walkers, what does that mean? God doesn’t just know our thoughts- He understands our thoughts. If you’ve ever been misunderstood when trying to express yourself to get help, you know how disheartening that incorrect interpretation can feel. The good news is right there, God doesn’t just know all, He understands all. If you find yourself in a position of needing or wanting someone’s advice, pray about it first. Xx