New Year, New We … Hey Bestie!

Before 2022 arrives, I am making a public commitment to, well, us-me and you. You being both myself and the person reading this. I’m committing to show up consistently on The Hadaya, and to give you my best when I do. In my short 21 years of life I have endured quite a lot, and I always told myself that I would one day become the person that I needed when I was younger. And that is not to downplay or overlook my ever present village. However, as time goes on and the world changes, so should we and how we go about certain things.

I pray and hope that The Hadaya becomes a safe space for the inner black children who need it, as well as a space for those who don’t necessarily need it, but still want to be here.

Let me explain that.

I’m big on definitions. For two reasons. The first one simply being that I love to talk but I’m learning that the tongue truly has the power of life and death. The Bible says that “they that love it,” it meaning the action of using your voice, “shall eat the fruit thereof.” (Proverbs 18:21). Now if you’re like me and you’re fairly new to having your own personal relationship with God, that sentence may be confusing and overwhelming. This verse is simply telling us to be mindful of what comes out of our mouths because words hold power. Have you ever heard the phrase “you are what you eat,” as it pertains to our nutrition? Take this verse as “you are what you speak.” The second reason I like to know the exact meaning of what I say is because we live in a world where there are so many words and phrases; new ones being added each year. I feel that we the people have evolved and know so much that we assume we know what people are talking about. Take inner child for example, it sounds familiar but the phrase in actuality has nothing to do with being under 18, or being in touch with your “younger self,” as explained in psychology. Inner child is defined as a person’s supposed original or true self. So when I say that I want The Hadaya to be a safe space for the inner black child, I simply mean a safe space for your true and original self. And the black part simply because I’m a black woman and my inner child has had experiences that come with being black.

So cheers to 2022, cheers to the start and growth of The Hadaya, and cheers to the new we, bestie! Xx